I have read the book. It made me cry.
And I love sad love stories.
Or I did.
Now I just want to avoid them and the whirlwind of emotion that comes along with them. I want to climb into bed, pull my comfy blanket over my head, and curl up in a tight, shatter-proof ball.
I started The Time Traveler's Wife a year or so ago. I got so busy with grad school that I didn't finish it. I fully intended to so that I could watch the movie (looks fantastic), but now? Now I don't think I can.
I bought the movie PS I love you for myself. I can't even open the damn DVD box.
I saw The Descendants a couple of months ago. I was not aware of what it was about, apparently. But as soon as the main character found out his wife had been cheating on him, that heavy feeling started in my chest. All the emotions I had felt when my ex said he wanted a divorce? All back, stretching out with cold fingers to fill my body. It gave me little comfort to know that obviously others have felt all that I have felt the last 2 years, or at least similar things. I sat paused, barely breathing, during the entire movie. And I was silent for a good 2 hours after the movie was done.
Saw Crazy Stupid Love soon after. What the hell was I thinking? Another movie where I sat frozen, the only movement my tears sliding down my face, lying to rest on my collarbone.
It's taken all this time for me to figure out that what I want so desperately is also what scares the shit out of me. One in the same. I am both drawn and repelled, a magnet with polar ends, constantly spinning out of control when pushed too closely towards the right field.
I listen to music to calm myself. I read. I write. I tell myself over and over until I am hoarse, that it will be okay, go slow, leave the past behind, smile, breathe.
Breathe.
Sometimes I feel as though I am the only one dizzy with the spinning.
3 comments:
You are doing it. You are a great mom and every day, hard as it is, you're doing it. I hope it gets better for you soon. Or if not better, than easier. xxoo
@Mrs. Irritation- Thank you. I love my girl, and that makes such a huge difference, ya know?
I'm wondering, does it help any to talk about the movies or books? For example, Crazy Stupid Love. I went to see it at the theater this summer, alone. So I'm in a crowded theater (it had just been released) full of couples and families and groups - I thought it was rated R so I told my kids I wouldn't take them, and was surprised by the crowd.
Me: Middle aged accountant. Had just left his wife (met her in high school) and is totally a backward person socially (I've not been on a date with anyone since I was 18). I could identify just a little with this guy, although the reasons for the breakup were very very different (it wasn't her fault).
I cried buckets in that theater full of people, but I also laughed my ass off at parts of the movie. I think the laughing has helped. I've since watched it alone in my apartment and again with one of my kids and managed to only cry quietly that time.
I think in a strange way it may be helping me to heal, and accept, what I'm going through, even thought it's Hollywood and all that.
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