2.11.2010

Girl Talk Thursday-Valentine's Day is a RACKET

So. Valentine's Day. Do I love it? Hate it?
Well.
When I was a kid, I loved Valentine's day. And it wasn't so much all the candy, the cards from friends and crushes, the teddy bears, the balloons. I mean, those things were great; don't get me wrong. But what I loved the most were the cards and poems from my parents.
My mother always wrote me little poems. She put them in my lunchbox, in my sock drawer, on the counter paper-clipped to my lunch money, slid under the windshield wiper of my car. They were mostly silly little things:
Roses are Red,
Violets are blue,
Here's some ice cream money,
Because I love you.

They made me smile.
I saved a ton of them.

My father bought me my then-favorite candy at least once a month: a Caramello. I still love them, but rarely eat them. He would open my bedroom door and toss it to me, saying "I love you, bud".

On Valentine's day, there would be a Caramello at my place on the kitchen table, and a red envelope containing my father's straight-backed cursive: "To my Bud-Will you be mine?" Next to it would be silly candy from my mother, and a new "Roses are Red" poem.

None of the other stuff mattered, the bears, the cards, the love notes from a crush, as long as those sincere and true love things were there on the table.

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Now? Now I feel that Valentine's day is a RACKET. Yes, I said it. It's full of cards that mean something to only the person buying them, flowers that will wilt in a day or so, candy and little knick knacks that will end up under my kid's bed, or in the dog's mouth. I guess I feel like the sentiment left when all the foo-foo stuff set in? Or maybe I don't like it because I can never find things that really convey my love for my hard-to-buy-for hubby? And me, the one who has a way with words, finds herself staring at a blank journal page when she tries to write a well thought-out, sincere love note to him. I am the only one that saves these cards, stuffing them in the top drawer of my night stand, where I occasionally pull them out and read them. It all sounds so cheesy and canned and insincere, even though it isn't. Yet, every year I strive to do, say, or write something that is heartfelt and sincere.

This year, I will focus on my little girl. I am making her easy chocolate-covered strawberries. I will find a silly card that will make her smile. I will buy her a little cupcake, give her lots of kisses, and write her a simple poem. I will do this every year, so that she will have pleasant memories of this day, no matter how old she is.
And in doing so, I hope to re-discover the real pleasure and sentiment behind this holiday.



13 comments:

Kami said...

Yeah, totally. It really is a racket. But, then, so is every holiday that you can buy a sappy card for. It's just nice to have a day where you're supposed to think about the people you love. And how loved you are!

pamela said...

Aww I think you just gave me an idea for a tradition to start with my daughter. Very well put, Danielle!

pastelprincess said...

I love that idea! I like that you're carrying on the tradition of showing a little extra affection on that day to your daughter. Cute. :)

thepsychobabble said...

I struggle with gifting the husband too. This year the kids are finally old enough to kinda get what's going on.

Cheryl said...

Aw, I love that your parents wrote you poems. So sweet. I think the holiday is more meaningful when you have kids. As for me and my hubby who are without right now? A total racket.

magically ordinary said...

Very well put! My husband and I don't celebrate Valentines day but we make sure it is special for our boys.

Angi said...

I love what you have said here. My take on Valentine's Day is much the same. It's the little things...the ones that make your heart smile that the day should be about.

Chibi said...

Glad you're going to carry on the tradition!

The Ranting Mommy said...

What a sweet post! I love that you want to continue the tradition from your childhood memories on to your daughter. *misty-eyed*

uthostage said...

Great post. It's so good that you have those memories of your parents love that you can now pass down to your little girl.

I hope you both have a great Valentine's Day!

TheLadysRevenge said...

What a sweet idea for your daughter!

Supa Dupa Fresh said...

What a terrific way to create sweet memories... I'll have to think of something like that for my girl. Her birthday is so close that I'm usually too tired to.. but it's a great idea.

X

Supa

jadedperspective said...

That is really awesome about your parents notes and stuff. As a kid I just remember it being about school and friends/boyfriends and stuff.
Mike and I never really get into it. I like any excuse to give a card, especially now to thank him, so I did. But we don't really care to much about it or buy expensive gifts. And LORD KNOWS it ain't the only day of the year we get it on. LOL
He had Mason ask me to be his "ballentine" and gave me "chocowits" and it was the best Vday ever. We made cupcakes and decorated them and he got a $2 Shrek Coloring book he treats like it's the holy grail LOL. I will def. like sharing it with him growing up.